Sex is a sexual experience that can be pleasurable and fun but it also comes with risks like unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases. This is why it s important to have a plan and be prepared for anything that may happen during sex.
Open communication is key and this doesn t just mean dirty talk. Communicating with your partner can improve sexual satisfaction and intimacy.
1. Get Her in the Mood
A woman isn’t necessarily in the mood to have sex right off the bat. In fact, many women need some foreplay before they’re ready to get intimate. It’s up to you to make her feel excited to be with you in the bedroom. Here are some tips for how to do that.
One way to get her in the mood is by demonstrating that you’re romantically interested in her. Give her compliments that are genuine, and don’t be afraid to touch her. Touching her shoulder, arm, stomach, or breasts can be a great way to build tension and show her that you want to be close to her.
You can also create sexual tension verbally by talking about spicy topics. This shows her that you’re comfortable with sex and that you’re not afraid to talk about it. This will get her thinking about what it might be like to have sex with you.
It’s also a good idea to figure out what turns her on and off. For example, if watching an X-rated video makes her turn on, you might want to use it to set the scene for intimacy in your home. However, if it turns her off, you might need to find other ways to get her in the mood.
2. Prepare for the Session
Ideally, you should have some alone time with your partner before the session starts. This will allow you to talk, get to know one another a bit better, and let them see you in your best light. This will also give you the opportunity to make sure that you have everything you need to enjoy the experience. It s important to have things like tissues, condoms (if you ll be using them) and plenty of lubricant on hand.
During the session, it s a good idea to communicate with your partner often. This will ensure that they re comfortable and can keep you both interested in each other. It s also a great way to build up excitement and anticipation.
For example, you can tease each other with kissing, holding hands, and other sexual activities. You can also use blindfolds, aromatherapy candles, and other sensual touches to heighten the senses. Be creative, and try new things to spice up the routine if it s becoming monotonous.
It s important to remember that this is the first time you re having sex, so it s not likely to be flawless or mind-blowing. It s similar to riding a bike or driving a car for the first time — it s going to take some practice. But if you are willing to work at it, it can become a beautiful, sensual dance that will be remembered for a lifetime.
3. Be Prepared for Orgasm
Despite all of the tips and tricks that are available to achieve an orgasm during sex, it can still be very difficult for some people to reach that peak of pleasure. This doesn’t necessarily mean that the person or partner did anything wrong, as the sexual response cycle is different for everyone. Some people reach climax earlier than others, and some never do.
If you want to increase your chances of getting a Big O, experts suggest that you try different things until you find what feels good. Foreplay, kegel exercises, playing out your sexual fantasies and even just stimulating the right spots in the body can help.
One thing that many people don’t realize is that orgasms aren’t just a single experience—they can happen over and over again throughout the course of an intimate relationship. As a result, it’s important to create a sexual environment that is safe and supportive to ensure that your partner can enjoy themselves.
To do this, make sure the room is dark and quiet, and that the vulva is clean (use unscented soap and water to wash external surfaces, but don’t rinse inside the canal). It’s also a good idea to use lubricant before trying anything, and to keep your fingers, extremities and toys away from each other, as a rule.
4. Be Prepared for Sex Without Orgasm
It’s important to remember that orgasms don’t happen all the time. And that’s okay! In fact, it’s not even the most important part of sex. What’s more, arousal isn’t just a physical thing—it can also be mental. The broader circumstances of our lives—whether we’re stressed, tired, or feeling self-conscious about our bodies—have a massive impact on our pleasure in the bedroom.
And of course, there’s the fact that our individual arousal levels vary, so it can be difficult to predict whether or not we will have an orgasm during sex. Even if we do, it’s not always a guarantee that we will be able to sustain the orgasm. That’s another reason why it’s good to be prepared for a variety of emotions, including excitement, happiness, confusion, and anxiety.
The best way to prepare for these varying emotions is to communicate with your partner, especially when you’re having sex for the first time. Let him know what kind of experience you want and what your triggers are, so he can take care of your individual needs.
Taking the pressure off of having to orgasm liberates both partners to focus on what truly gives them pleasure, rather than on hitting an orgasm. And that can be very satisfying as well. Plus, if you’re focusing on pleasure, you can continue enjoying the experience for as long as you like.
