For many people, having lesbian sex for the first time is an exciting and intimidating prospect. However, sex doesn’t come with an in-built manual – sexual encounters are unpredictable!
Whether you are a cis woman or trans girl, and whatever your sexual preferences are, these tips will help you have good lesbian sex.
Talk Dirty Before
Talking dirty is a sure-fire way to turn up the sexual heat in your relationship. But it can also be a bit intimidating to start. It’s important to communicate clearly and openly with your partner about your sexual desires to make sure you are both on the same page. You can do this by having an initial chat about your sexual desires and boundaries. This will help you avoid accidentally offending your significant other or killing the mood altogether.
It’s also a good idea to let your partner know what turns you on and what turn you off. You can do this by describing your fantasies or even just telling them all the fun and naughty things you want to do to them. The more you practice talking dirty, the easier it will be for you.
Another great tip is to use erotic literature as a guide to what to say. There are so many sexy words out there, and reading them aloud can really get you going. Plus, it’s a great way to find out what kind of dirty language your lover likes. If they like swearing, you can incorporate that into your conversations. It’s all about finding out what your partner likes and doesn’t like, so experiment with different techniques until you find what works for you.
Establish Your Boundaries
While boundaries may sound a bit off-putting, they can actually help you get closer to your partner by bringing clarity and trust. They also allow for more intimacy because your emotional state isn’t the only factor that determines what you and your partner will enjoy.
For instance, if your partner tells you they don’t want to have anal sex, it isn’t personal. They’re simply stating their boundary on what they feel comfortable with. It’s important to understand this instead of making it about your own feelings because this can create tension and hurt.
Additionally, it’s important to know what your partner likes in terms of erotogenic zones (i.e., areas of the body that tend to have high concentrations of nerve endings that connect to key pleasure areas in the brain). Knowing what brings your partner pleasure will allow you to experiment and foreplay with them.
For example, if your partner enjoys verbal intimacy, try telling them creative, specific compliments or give them a back rub to boost their self-esteem and mood. If they love physical affection, consider grabbing her hand while you’re out to dinner with friends or holding hands in public places. Or if they want to watch porn, find LGBTQ-produced porn that supports performers and uses safe practices.
Get Creative
In a male-centric culture, we tend to think of the penis and the anal as the only areas where sexual pleasure can be found. But, the truth is, women have plenty of erogenous zones, and the possibilities are endless.
For example, many lesbians love oral sex, and there are lots of toys available that can give the sitter and receiver extra sensations. There are also clit sucker vibrators, wands, and G-spot vibes that can all be used for lesbian foreplay or sex with one another.
Having fun and being creative during play is a great way to make sex with your partner even more intense. Try things like rubbing, stroking, teasing, pounding, penetrating and fingering. And don’t forget to use lube!
Some of these techniques can be difficult to master, so don’t worry if you get it wrong. Just be sure to communicate clearly with your partner and to always respect her boundaries.
Finally, don’t drink too much alcohol before or during sex, as it can be dangerous for both of you. It can also prevent you from concentrating on the moment and enjoying all of the sexual euphoria that is taking place. It’s also not a good idea to use drugs or have sex with someone who is on drugs.
Relax
If you’re having sex with a woman, it’s important to have a good relationship and communicate well. It’s also important to be aware of the risks and take proper precautions for sexual health. Many people assume that lesbian sex is safer than heterosexual sex, but the truth is gay women are just as susceptible to STIs as their cisgender counterparts. STIs can be transmitted through skin-to-skin contact, mucus contact, vaginal fluids and menstrual blood, as well as sharing sex toys.
Remember, you’re not alone in this adventure and it’s ok to make mistakes. It’s even better to admit those mistakes and work through them together! Lastly, don’t ever let anyone tell you that it isn’t possible for you to find someone who will love you back. You’re worth it and you deserve to be happy.
Having lesbian sex for the first time can be a nerve-wracking experience, but it’s also an exciting one. It’s an opportunity to explore your partner’s erogenous zones and discover what you and your partner enjoy the most about sexual activity. Whether you’re a lesbian or just interested in exploring new things with a woman, a little preparation and creativity can make for a satisfying and memorable experience. Hopefully, these tips will help you have your best first-time lesbian encounter yet!
