Men are very visual learners. Show him how you like it by stroking his man-part with your fingers and tongue during the day, wearing a revealing outfit, or even doing Kegel exercises to strengthen your pelvic floor and make penetration more exciting for both of you.
Here’s how to have the best sex ever with your husband.
1. Dress in a way that he loves.
If your man is happy sexually, he will be more focused on fulfilling your sexual desires. That means that you should try to dress in a way that pleases him. This could be as simple as putting on some nice lingerie that makes you feel good. It could also be as elaborate as a night out on the town, or taking him on a romantic weekend getaway.
The point is to let him know that you are his focus and that you want him. This will make him feel special and will give him a heightened sense of pleasure during sex.
Flirt with him all the time — not just in the bedroom. Make eye contact with him, lick your lips, and squint at him when you think that he’s looking extra sexy. It’s easy to lose that initial spark after a while, but keeping the flirtation alive will keep your love for him alive as well.
Trying new positions in the bedroom is another great way to turn up the heat. It can be as simple as kissing in a different position or as complex as switching up who is on top of whom. He will be pleased that you are willing to go outside of your comfort zone and try something new. This will increase his feelings of sexual power and he’ll be more likely to take things to the next level.
2. Make him feel special.
There are a few things you can do to make any man feel special. For starters, try complimenting him often and telling him how much you love him. This will always make him feel like he is important to you. You can also try surprising him with little gestures, like leaving him a note in his pocket, giving him a back rub or even just filling up his car with gas. You can also surprise him with something more elaborate, like making his favorite meal or sending him flowers.
Another way to make him feel special is to spice things up in the bedroom. Many couples fall into a routine of doing sex at certain times, and it can get boring. Try adding some sexy props to the bedroom, such as furry handcuffs or a silk blindfold. You can also try introducing new sexy positions or experimenting with different lubes.
Finally, don’t forget to give him lots of attention during the day. This will help to boost his libido and make him more excited about sex. You can also try mentioning his name a lot and using it as a sexual innuendo. Also, don’t be afraid to be loud if you feel like it. Men love to hear moans, groans and other sounds of pleasure.
If you’re not sure what to do to make your husband feel special, ask him! He’ll be happy to tell you all the little things that he appreciates.
3. Make him feel like he’s the only man in the world.
Sometimes life gets hectic, and sex can take a back seat. If that happens, it’s not always easy to reignite the flame. But there are some things you can do to make him feel special and get your mojo back.
Kiss him like you really mean it, going above and beyond a hello smooch. Kiss him in places you know he loves: behind his ear, his waistband, his inner thigh. And don’t forget his testicles. Gently, teasingly stroke or massage them. This is erotic for him, and it will definitely turn up the heat.
Scream, groan, or moan if you’re feeling it. Men love to hear you express pleasure, and it will help to build intimacy.
Try some new sex toys. Furry handcuffs, a silk blindfold, or some flavoured lube can all be a fun way to spice things up in the bedroom.
Discuss one of your sexual fantasies together. This will create a safe space for the conversation, and it can also reveal what you have in common.
Consider seeing a sex therapist or marital coach. Many couples find that this helps them break out of a sex rut and spark their interest in each other again. If you’re willing to invest the time, money, and energy, it might just be the best thing you ever do for your relationship.
4. Make him feel like he’s the only man in the world.
If you’re the type of person who always lets your husband initiate in bed, it might be time to change things up. Taking charge in the bedroom shows him that you want him more, and will get him excited about what’s to come. You can do this by experimenting with new positions or exploring other sexual fantasies together. You can also try getting a little bit naughty, like kissing him in the places he loves (behind his ear, inner thigh, waistband), gently stroking or massaging his testicles (it’s safe to do this when you’re on top, and it turns many men on), or straddling him, pressing into him where it counts.
Don’t be afraid to talk about sexy fantasies with him, and encourage him to share his. You may be surprised to discover that you have a lot in common and some of your fantasies could become reality. Getting in the habit of discussing your sexual desires regularly will make it easier to bring up sexy topics in the future, and can help keep the conversation fresh and exciting.
Show him how much you want him in the bedroom by courting him during the day. This doesn’t have to be anything big, but little touches can go a long way—like kisses on the lips or on the neck during lunch. You can also leave him a note on his mirror, in his briefcase, or even in his sock drawer.
